Heartbreak Equals Roadblock
By Aparna Rajan
I am a freshman approaching my sophomore year at Drexel University as a dual major in Marketing and International Business. I like to see life obstacles as minor speed bumps that keep you in check as you make your way to your destination.
There’s a certain type of emotional pain that a person faces when recovering from a breakup. I only realized what young and dumb meant when I experienced this myself. I am 19 years old.
It is that feeling you get when you can’t have someone you fell for and you try to deal with it, but it feels almost impossible. You develop this anxious, nauseous feeling whenever you’re around them.
You think “maybe it’s a flaw in my character” or “I just need a rebound,” but eventually you realize that neither of those things would solve your situation. They just make it worse.
Turns out that it’s just the reality of heartbreak, and the risk taken when you let your feelings and your heart connect.
Recently I watched “To All the Boys I’ve Loved” and the main protagonist, Lara Jean, said “the more people you let into your life, the more they can just walk right out,” or something along those lines. Honestly, that quote was one the only quotes that has defined this constant circle of pain and doubt I am feeling.
This myth has fooled us into thinking that life is a cycle of blocking people out, when in reality, remold ourselves for the better through each emotional experience we go through.
I have concluded that life will go on. Your family, friends, mentors, and ex-lovers move on and in some situations, leave you behind.
It’s overwhelming and scary, but just like an ocean, no part of your life is the same as another.
Today, I want to bring together all the heartbroken to heal together. It’s amazing how regardless of our separate problems, we can relate and help each other through the hardest parts of a breakup.
We call this closure. It’s something that I haven’t figured out yet but that’s okay!
For the past year, all that has run through my head is “pain,” and I have written article for those of you who are in a similar boat - join me as we sail into a new chapter.
It isn’t going to be easy but knowing your self-worth and your increased strength, can take you anywhere.
Life throws hurdles at you to test your stamina. You can show life and love that it doesn’t matter if it’s one hurdle or a thousand hurdles because you can overcome them and continue being beautiful, strong, and perfect.
Life is too short to pause for someone who didn’t pause for you so take it all in and embrace your strength to work towards a new and better chapter in your life.